So instead, I've decided to have some aims for the year instead. Aims feel a little less concrete. I feel like, if need be, I can dip in when my mental health is good and out when need be. I can do my best, but if I don't quite succeed, it's ok. They are things to aim for and work towards throughout the year.
So here are my aims for 2018:
Some days I just don't have the motivation to keep on top of the home. Some days the thought of getting up from the sofa fills me with dread. I've struggled so much this year, but haven't always shared it, especially on here. There's something deeply embarrassing about depression affecting your housework and yet, I'm fairly sure it affects many many people in that way.
So this year, I plan to follow the Organised Mum method. 30 minutes per day seems doable and if I am having an off day, 30 minutes is something my husband can commit to too, or is easy to catch up on, on the weekend.
Oh how I wish to declutter. I don't always have the energy to. With depression it's often difficult just to keep the house ticking over. The clutter makes the anxiety worse though, so when I feel up to it, I really do want to work on the clutter at home and work towards a more minimalist home.
This year I plan to do this by decluttering 2018 items in 2018, as well as working on the Home Storage Solutions Declutter 365 Mission. I'm hoping that by having a little structure, and following the guiding principle of an item only having it's place if it is both useful and beautiful, I will have a home that I feel more at peace in by the end of 2018.
I'm under no illusion that it is incredibly difficult to become zero-waste, but I do want to become more conscious of the waste we produce. Towards that aim, I want to make one zero-waste swap per month for 2018. That should hopefully be 12 swaps over the year. Here are some of the swaps I plan to make, but in a random order.
- Use a packed lunch, instead of buying food in disposable containers when out
- Use brown bin for food waste
- Start using cloth nappies again
- Switch to wax wraps instead of clingfilm
- Get a glass coffee cup, so I can support local small coffee shops instead of big corporations
- Switch to bar conditioner
- Change to bamboo toothbrush
- Cloth handkerchiefs (made from old muslins?)
- Reusable kitchen towel
- Use a reusable container for buying cheese/meat/fish
- Use natural cleaning materials
- Zero-waste present wrapping!
Ditch the Baby-Weight
Is it still baby weight when the first baby is nearly 3? When the second is nearly 1? I'm pretty sure it's mostly chocolate weight, but that's a whole other story.
This year, I hope to get back down to the weight I was before I had Baobao. That's roughly 15kg to lose, depending on how much weight I've put on over the Christmas period. I want to do it healthily, although there will be times when I will be giving things up.
Here are some ideas I've had so far:
- Take part in Veganuary this January, to kickstart eating more healthily. I don't naturally eat many vegetables, so by going vegan for a month I hope to start it at least.
- Possibly take part in the British Heart Foundation Dechox in March, if they are running it again. It's a brilliant cause, and served to kickstart me losing some of the baby weight from Baobao before falling pregnant with Xiaobao.
- Give up unhealthy snacks, such as crisps, sweets and chocolate for lent. I've done it in the past and feel confident I could do it again.
- Work on doing more exercise, possibly following a plan such as the NHS 12 Week Weight Loss Guide or Couch to 5K, or by doing classes, such as Zumba or Yoga when I am feeling more confident
Baobao has been asking to learn to read recently, so although I am planning to follow her lead on that matter, I also plan to play more with her and document her learning through play on this blog.
To that end, I plan on starting a weekly feature on the blog - Our Week in Play - a look at what we have done over the week, both in terms of learning and in terms of play, something that in our house is interchangeable. In a way, the blog will become a showcase of our home education journey, once Baobao is at compulsory school age. Until then, it's a showcase of our early years journey without nursery.